tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post3212930567586160795..comments2023-10-31T06:43:20.789-04:00Comments on Come on Along!: Wow, lots of things happen to you!MyThreeBlogshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07817857109007712976noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-78351177966371362902007-10-24T19:45:00.000-04:002007-10-24T19:45:00.000-04:00Heya, gotta say, we all know very well that if you...Heya, gotta say, we all know very well that if you read a kid a book that they aren't interested in they won't listen and they won't get anything out of it. You need to read them things that they enjoy so they will be interested in talking about it later. Maybe just pick a couple of books from the library that are gonna widen their interest and then let them try them out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-86216663303201432182007-10-23T22:39:00.000-04:002007-10-23T22:39:00.000-04:00I cant stop laughing at "we're going to bribe the ...I cant stop laughing at "we're going to bribe the super!"<BR/><BR/>I have similar experiences with my exhusband. He calls and says "waht kind of music are you exposing the girls to? Do you play them Mozart?" and my answer is "Dire Straits and Reba McEntire BABY!" He always treats me as if I am doing everything unwisely...oh, I could go on...Stepping Over the Junkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09165163020885309533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-59458644733479491362007-10-23T17:47:00.000-04:002007-10-23T17:47:00.000-04:00I have no advice about bribery...I am horrible at ...I have no advice about bribery...I am horrible at that sort of thing. I'd make a better mobster, full of bluster and threats I think LOL.<BR/><BR/>Umm no I think it's okay to feel like your therapist let you down. They can't tell you what to do but umm she needed to intervene, could even be in the form of a question.<BR/><BR/>I hope that moment of realization in Synagogue was a bubble popping, freeing you.<BR/><BR/>And hang in there. I TOTALLY understand the life in which Much Occurs. :)<BR/><BR/>Julie<BR/><A HREF="http://theartfulflower.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">Using My Words</A>Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-22463169662298599782007-10-23T13:03:00.000-04:002007-10-23T13:03:00.000-04:00You've gotten some good advice from the three abov...You've gotten some good advice from the three above me, but you need to watch out that you don't slip into "what can I do that will change X's behavior?"<BR/><BR/>I'd bet serious money that X will interact with you in basically this way for at least a decade. You need to be thinking in terms of strategies that make it easier for you to "co-parent" with him the way he is now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-44183558120164789922007-10-22T11:24:00.000-04:002007-10-22T11:24:00.000-04:00If you can just laugh and say, "Oh those two boys!...If you can just laugh and say, "Oh those two boys! They never cease to amaze me!", and then say, "I've got to go, thanks for making my day!" and be all cheerful about his call, I think he will stop! It may take a while. When he hangs up, just thank God you are not him! He is still attached to you and can't seem to live without you. So he feels like he must punish you for not being in his life.<BR/> Wow! I could have been a therapist! Anywho, I sent you a message over on the other site. I hope you will read it..... ~WaldoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-68920766841858269442007-10-22T09:59:00.000-04:002007-10-22T09:59:00.000-04:00I'm with Heidi. There are tons of bad things that...I'm with Heidi. There are tons of bad things that happen to us that we can't control, but one thing that really seems to bother you and that you might be able to eliminate from your life is your inevitably unpleasant contacts with X. If you *have* to talk on the telephone to X and he says something obnoxious about reading or cooking, how about if you tried just not responding at all to his taunts, but saying "I need to go now. Goodbye" or "Thanks for telling me. Goodbye" or "That's very interesting. Goodbye" or "I'll certainly think about that. Goodby" or something to that effect? If he's getting no reaction from you, he might stop trying to needle you.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08315267454529454063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25916124.post-87523226273096747552007-10-22T02:20:00.000-04:002007-10-22T02:20:00.000-04:00Wow, that was quite the moment in the Synagogue. Y...Wow, that was quite the moment in the Synagogue. <BR/><BR/>You must have felt so lonely back then, before your marriage. What a jerk your X was!<BR/><BR/>And seriously, what's with his need to constantly needle you? It's like he NEEDS to be in touch with you all the time. The things he calls about are insignificant. Why does he need to call you and say that Nathan ate well? That's a great thing, but move on. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure he knows that you are not confident in the cooking department, but if he is over you and the two of you, he should not need to be contacting you for every little thing like this. <BR/><BR/>It's like he hasn't moved on yet, and still needs to bicker with you.<BR/><BR/>You should just see it for what it is - an attempt by him to find out whether what he says still matters to you. And you need to stay firm that it DOES NOT matter. <BR/><BR/>As long as he doesn't have anything IMPORTANT to say that affects the boys' well-being, of course. <BR/><BR/>You are doing the best parenting job you know how, and that is more than you can say about him, from what I gather!<BR/><BR/>Thinking back in the Synagogue, you realized how much sadness he brought into your life. Don't let him continue to do that now. Keep your head up! Enjoy parenting your lovely boys your way!<BR/><BR/>HeidiFamily Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.com