Thursday, October 12, 2006

Thirteen Things that I don't like, that annoy me, that bug me, that irk me, and just piss me off - even when I'm not PMSing - the big things and the really inconsequential little ones, too.
1…. When you wash your hands at a public bathroom you usually have to reach up a bit to get a paper towel, causing the water to drip down your arms!
2..... People who stop on the top of the subway steps to finish their cell phone conversations before they go underground - causing others who are going down to go around them, and then blocking the people who want to come up.
3.... People who wait until the last minute on a check out line to get their change out... then count out all their change to pay for their items.
4.... People who use other people's pet peeves in order to get the requisite 13.
5.... Jews for Jesus (You can't be Jewish and believe that Jesus is the messiah, and will you get the heck out of my face!)
6.... People who talk louder to non-English speakers. They're not deaf, they just don't speak English!
7.... People who call Bono "Bono" (think Sonny Bono).
8.... People who take themselves way too seriously and get irked by people who call Bono "Bono" (ala Sonny Bono).
9.... Tom Cruise.
10.... Fanatics of any kind: vegetarian/PETA, religious, political....
11.... People who try to get into the subway car before we've all left. Come on, guys, the train isn't going to leave - just give us the space to get out, ok?!?
12.... Reverse snobs - Why do you automatically hate that guy just because he works on Wall Street? YOu know nothing about him, except that he's wearing a suit. And you live in the East Village, but hey, there's no friggin' way you're a starving artist - because rents there are higher than they are here!
13.... Loud, obnoxious, cigar smoking drunk men in suits. (Oops!)
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Tuesday, October 10, 2006

Traffic - Video Library

We were stuck in traffic Sunday - absolute total standstill traffic for FOUR HOURS - because of this accident....

While we were sitting there, dying to use a toilet (we all ended up in the woods off the side of the road) we cursed the people who caused this... all the while reminding each other that they were in an accident & probably much worse off than we were....

Monday, October 09, 2006

Total Vent

Please forgive the absolutely positively exhautedly tired, probably rambly, total vent -- but I can see I'm not going to be able to get to sleep without getting this out. I'm so pissed off....

You guys know how I met w/X about three weeks ago to go over our mediation agreement. He bugged me, nagged me & pushed me to set up the date - saying that if I couldn't find somebody to stay with the kids then he would have his girlfriend stay w/them, etc, etc...

So, we met & he was all: "We have to get this resolved right away..." He made some suggestions/changes, etc that I said I had to think about. We agreed that HE would type up an email to the mediator with our ideas. Ok. Two days come & go after our meeting & he hasn't typed anything. SO - I type up a recap & how I feel about stuff & actions we need to take.

About a week later he asks me: "Any thoughts on what we discussed? Time is money, you know!" I told him that I had sent him an email, and he should read it.

Two weeks go by - I hear nothing. I email him this past weekend: What the heck is going on? Why is he not responding? Let's get going w/this....

He emails back one thing: "The sticking point is the $300 per month maximum in daycare, etc. Until that is resolved everything is moot, right."

He doesn't address ANYTHING ELSE in this LONG email that I sent, he has not answered ANY questions that I asked, or ANYTHING!!!

Plus, does he really fucking think that $300 per month is enough for child care for two children?!?! WTF?!??!?! By LAW he is supposed to pay pro-rata for child care. Since I saw how much he was paying for child support, knew what sort of bills he had to pay, and how much he was earning, I said that we did not have to do the pro-rata thingy & let him contribute $800/month for child care & agree to not contribute to extra-currics until Sept '07 - when both kids will be in public school & we won't need full time child care.

I totally gave in on everything, but like I said - I saw his reality & it wouldn't be in anybody's interest to bankrupt him.... and figured that if I wanted to do extra-currics... well.... I just would. (ALthough both parents are legally responsible for contributing pro-rata to that, too.) And figured the amount it would cost me would still be less than an attorney to fight it.

But now, if he's gonna stick on this.... and not just go to the pro-rata as of Sept '07..... shit I don't know what to do. It seems so crazy to go to a lawyer now - after we're 99% done!

He so doesn't see it. He sees it that I"m just taking all his money. But what he doesn't know is that I could be oh so much worse... (And when I mentioned that to him one time he was like: 'listen, I earn more, I have a full time job (which was then - not now!) and I can take custody of the kids! So don't start talking like you're the "good" one - I could go for more, too..." Yes, it's truly amazing the way his mind works, isn't it?

This divorce is as much of a friggin' nightmare as the marriage... although yes, I know, it could be worse... I'm lucky that he's so "good" to me.