Ohmygoodness. I'm not even really sure where to begin. I've had all these blot posts floating around in my head forever... and now they seem so outdated!
I've had a bit of a reality check with X. You know, he's annoying, frustrating, aggravating, etc, etc, etc. BUT - my new supervisor is currently going through a divorce. And wow. Was I and am I lucky. There are whole other worlds of pain you can go through.
And when we took Nathan for a blood test last week - X came. And I used his wife's insurance. And the woman who took the insurance info was so impressed. "His wife?" and "He's here, too?!"
And when X didn't let me into his apartment when I went to pick the boys up to bring them to Hebrew School (don't ask) & I spoke to him about it the next day. I asked: "What sort of message do you think it sends to them?" And he stopped. And he thought about it. And we talked about it. And I thought, you know... he's a dick... but...
So. My new job.
I started last Monday, so I've been there one full week. I think it will be good. Except -- my new supervisor (who is great, really) is, as I mentioned, going through a (rough) divorce. She has two kids (4 & 7) and has just been promoted to supervisor. Remember how I wasn't sure how *I* wanted to be a supervisor with just all *I* have on my plate... Well. This woman is a ball of stress. And I so, so, so feel for her. And I so, so, so know where she is and what she's going through.
She's so busy & stressed that I really have to focus her to find out what I need to do. And it gets me stressed (collateral stressage?).
But - It's so cool! I mean, I've never even really worked with people who have kids! Now I'm with a woman who is a single mom, two kids.... It's like we speak the same language! It's really wild.
I'm sure it will even out. It's only been one week. AND..... the BEST part: It's SO CLOSE to where I live! 3 miles! 40 minutes by subway! I drop the kids off at the bus in the morning - it picks them up 8:20 - 8:30 & I'm there. On time! I was so worried about it I actually did two test runs - one via bus and one via subway! PLUS - my new supervisor lives nearby & can drive me home sometimes. AND, she says if I need a lift there I can call her. AND, Max & her son know each other from day camp last summer. AND Max & her son want to meet to talk about divorce!! Can you believe that?!?! She told her son about Max -- and he said he would like to talk to him. I told Max & he nodded his head sagely..."Maybe he could email me." (Just like his mom!)
My sitter is back - with her one month old baby! It's so great to hold an infant... to see an infant. And she's so calm about it! It was raining her first day & she has to walk with him - in the Baby Bjorn - to pick the boys up! I call her: "How will you do this?!?" and she just replies "Ummm..... with an umbrella?" Oh. Right. I'll stop now.
So, I guess that's kinda it for now.... Gotta go catch up on my blog READING now. Really fallen behind with that, too..
My friend, Andrew Golkin
1 week ago